Tuesday, November 22, 2016

How to Choose the Right Man to Date

A bit off of the regular topic for us to be discussing here, but I have noticed alot of college girls that I am friends with are desperately trying to find a guy to date. They are posting all the time about not being able to find the right guy. This post is from a 40 something wife and mom trying to give them some advice on finding Mr. Right.


(I know you do not need a man to be happy, but this article is for those young women who DO want a relationship with a man, not to make them happy, but to have companionship, marriages or families some day.)

So some of your friends have already found themselves a great guy to date and are thinking about their future with them, and you are sitting home alone on Friday nights watching Netflix asking what you are doing wrong. Let me see if I can give you some honest advice and pointers.

First of all, the perfect man for you is not going to come knock on your door while you are home watching Netflix. You need to put yourself out there a little bit. Yes, even you shy girls are going to have to bite the bullet and go outside your home to try to find him. Now this doesn't mean you need to get all dolled up and hit the bars. Finding a quality guy in a bar is like finding a needle in a hay stack. But when a group of your friends is going out, go with them, wherever they are going. You never know where you will find him.

Second, you need to know what kind of guy you are looking for. Funny, charming, a go-getter? Just like there are many layers to you, there are also many layers to men also. If you keep roping in bad guys, you might need to rethink what you are looking for versus what you need. Maybe you need to quit going for the pretty boys. Yes they are nice to look at, but are they just using you for sex and then moving on? And here's a real eye opener, just because a guy is nice to you doesn't mean he's right for you! Think back to your childhood and you wanted one of your parents to buy you something. Were you extra special nice to them, maybe took out the trash without being asked so they would buy it for you? Well ladies, that is what these men are doing too. Don't fall for it!

Thirdly, when you see a guy that is fitting your values and morals, is funny and is good to look at too, you need to say something to him! Don't be afraid, say Hi, compliment him on something genuine, make your move. If you sit in the corner making eyes at him, he may just think you are the strange girl in the corner. Go over and start that conversation. I know it's hard, but get up your strength and do it. What's the worst thing that can happen, he says he has a girlfriend? Just tell him how lucky she is and move on. You left the conversation with him thinking highly of you, and maybe thinking about you when the girlfriend is no longer in the picture.

So where should you be looking for the right man? You've heard all the lines already, look at church, the library and so forth. You need to look wherever you are. You will find somebody with common interests then. If you are at college, look inside of your major. If you are out of college, look into different gathering of co-mingled friends. Your best guy friend may have a friend from high school that is in town for the weekend, and bam. Sometimes it is just a total coincidence that you meet him, other times it might be a set up from your best friend. Go on those first dates with people who think you might hit it off. Worse thing that can happen is you have a uncomfortable dinner and you both move on. Just be honest with those guys, tell them it isn't going to work. I met my husband because a bunch of my friends were going midnight bowling one night. One of my friends asked if a group of his older brothers friends could come with us. Bam! I wasn't looking for a husband, but I found one. People who knew both of us said that we would make a great couple due to our common interests. That was over 25 years ago now.

"But what types of men should I be looking for?" It depends on your interests. If you love the outdoors, don't find a shy, stay-at-home type of guy. Go find that guy who loves to try new things with you, who will climb that mountain with you and will gut and cook the fish you caught. Are you a movie buff? Find somebody who will love to go opening night to the latest movies with you. If you hate sports, do not find a football mega fan or you will never see him for four months out of the year. So what type did I go for? I went for sweet and funny. I also wanted a guy who could change the oil, tires or batteries in a car. Why? Because I wanted a guy who could take care of things himself around the house and not be afraid to fail trying something new. I am constantly trying new things. Some I get good at over time, some I suck at and will never do again. But at least I try them out first. That was what I was looking for in a husband, and thankfully also what I got.

So here are the bullet points for finding the right guy to date:

  • Put yourself out there
  • Know what you are looking for in a man
  • Don't go just for looks
  • Find a man with common interests
  • Try one date with the guy your roommate thinks is perfect for you
  • Attend co-mingled friend gatherings
  • If he's not right, just be honest and move on
And remember:
  • Looks fade
  • Money comes and goes
  • If your dog doesn't like him, there's a good reason why
  • Learn from past mistakes
  • And don't make the same mistake twice
What advice would you give the millennial generation to find the best man for them to date? What were you looking for in a man and found or missed the mark on? Let's help these younger women out so that they can find true love and a successful, long marriage. 



 



Thursday, November 3, 2016

My Side Hustles - How I make Extra Money



Full time job - 35 hours a week
After school care subbing - 5 hours a week
Etsy Store - 3 hours a week
Ebay Store - 3 hours a week
Perk Points - 28 hours a week (while at work)
Blogging - 2 hours a week
Craigslist - 30 minutes a week
Movie Theatre Secret Shopper - 45 minutes per week
CafePress.com - ongoing
Food Perspectives - 1 hour a month
Secret Shopping - 3 hours a week


Full time job
I work as a office para at one of my local schools. I love my job. I have tons of alone time to think while I am working, have time to do my Perk Points (below) and work with some pretty amazing people. This job is fully benefited which is why I wanted to work for the school district. They have better benefits than my husband's place of employment, so bonus! I do also have summers off and get district school days off too, so there is an added bonus. During the summer, I sub at the after school programs, below.

After school care subbing
Before I was an office para, I worked at a before and after school program in the same school district. I thoroughly enjoyed that job, but the hours were killing me. I started super early in the morning, went home for four hours in the middle of the day (when the kids were in classes) and then went back to work until the last child was picked up. It didn't matter if you had evening plans or not, if a parent was late, you stayed. So when I switched to the new job, I took on subbing for the workers who were sick or on vacation. That way, I get my "hanging out with kids" fix and I am making some extra cash at the same time. I try to work for five hours a week so I am up to my full 40 hours a week on my paycheck. I get to pick and choose which days I want to work, which works out great around my schedule. It is rewarding and fun. Check with your school district if they have this type of opportunity available. I know my school district is always hiring subs.

Etsy Store
I have been selling on Etsy since 2012 and I love it. My husband and I sell jingle bells. Yes, jingle bells. It's a long and complicated story, but, our jingle bell sales reach about $2500 a year which is what we use to cover Christmas costs. We probably only have enough bells left to last us a couple more years, but we will have green bells into eternity. So there will always be bells available. I am trying to expand my Etsy store into more areas, but that involves more time to make or find items to sell. I plan on working harder on it this summer. With Etsy you can sell your handmade crafts, crafting supplies or vintage items. It is a fun website to search around on and see all the fun stuff others are making. You can check out our store HERE.

Ebay Store
Wow, I have been selling on Ebay since 2001. Honestly, I still remember when we started our account. Sitting in the basement of our house (2 houses ago) trying to figure out what our user name should be. We got real creative and went with JeffandMichelle real original, I know. We still list items for sale that we find interesting, and hubby almost always has car parts up for sale from one of his jobs. We do sell jingle bells here too which ended up being a great listing idea that hubby had. I just had them on Etsy, but Ebay brought in a whole new market. Now if you have something to sell, on Ebay you can sell it. Seriously, you can sell anything on Ebay. Searching around on Ebay can be a huge time suck, but it's fun. You can check out our store HERE.

Perk Points
This one is kind of still weird to me and won't be enough for you to ever retire on, but it is extra money while I am already working. You see, at my full time job, I listen to music all day long, or at least 6 hours of the day. While I am working I pull up the app, but first make sure you are on wi-fi or all of your data will be gone the first day! While on the app, I press a button that will listen to what song I am listening to. I have my phone plugged into the computer, so I don't drain battery, press the listening button and it listens. When it recognizes the song, it will ask if I want to watch a video. Turn the sound down on your phone and press yes. When the video is playing, continue working, and you will earn 2 Perk Points. When the next song comes on, repeat, and so on and so on. So what do these Perk Points get me? I cash them in for gift cards. If I am on top of my game, I end up getting a $15 gift card to the home improvement store of my choice every month. Like I said, not enough to retire on, but I am already listening to the music, why not make a small amount of change while doing so. I have also started streaming their videos to get the points to add up more quickly. You need to have it showing on your computer screen somewhere by making the screen smaller, and mine tends to crash quite a bit. No, I do not actually watch these videos, just stream them while you go about your computer business. You can check it out and sign up HERE.

Blogging
Well you found this article, so you know what blogging is already. I started blogging when I was a stay-at-home mom and the housing market was starting to burst. My first blog was helping other stay-at-home moms to coupon, find freebies and save money. That blog was great, until I went back to work full-time and found that I didn't have time to keep up with it anymore. This blog was started when we started selling jingle bells. Yup, it was to accompany my Etsy store. It has morphed into my whole life, but it is still fun to share the little things I have learned along the way. Now, I don't do this blog full time like many others out there, so I am not killing it in the cash inflow area like I know some are. But it seems when we need a little extra cash for something, a check appears in the mail that was revenue from this blog. The two main sources of income from my blog are from the ads and from the coupons at the bottom. I do not sell my spaces or articles like other blogs do. Now if the right company came along with the right offer, that could change, who knows.

Craigslist
My family uses Cragislist to get rid of larger items that we have in our house to make some extra money. We made over $250 in one weekend once selling off stuff we didn't need anymore on Craigslist. Listing is easy and fast, and you don't even need it to look professional. Normally items will sell within just a few days if somebody is really looking for it. Word of advice though, I am a worry wart, and I refuse to be home alone if I am selling something. I just like the security of other people when a stranger is coming to my house. Plan ahead, or plan to meet in a public location if you don't want people coming to your home. Also, make sure all transactions are cash only. Who really writes checks anymore, so don't take them either.

Movie Theater Secret Shopping
I had just learned about this gig just a little bit ago from another blogger. There are secret shopper companies out there that will pay you to do their research. I personally do the movie theater ones, but you can secret shop restaurants, banks even coffee shops! There are many companies out there that do this type of work, I personally use Market Force. It has been a fun experience, and I have found out that if you are fun going in talking to the manager, you tend to be treated very nicely from their staff. Just keep it professional, get your work done and get out. They are busy helping their customers, so you don't need to be tying up too much of their time. You choose and apply for these jobs, and the longer you have worked for them, the more jobs you will be able to get. Most of the jobs I do are checking out their trailers and advertising before the movie starts. I did the trailer check before Captain America at one theater and ended up with a take home of $75 for that check. So they can be quite lucrative.

CafePress.com
This used to be one of my main side hustles back in my stay-at-home mom days. I still do receive a check a year, but they have "reworked" their contract so much that it pays pennies compared to what it used to. Cafe Press is a website where you can design your own merchandise (t-shirts, mugs, stickers) and others on the web come and purchase it. You receive a small percentage of each sale, but they do all the work. So if you are creative and like designing, this is worth looking into for you. There are other sites like Zazzle.com that are basically the same thing, but I am not sure about their payout values. If it is something that interests you check it out. If you do sign up and open some shops, let me know and we can "like" each others shops, which will help us all get a better commission from them.

Food Perspectives
I have been doing food taste testing since my oldest entered kindergarten. I know this because it was her school that first introduced me to this. You sign up on their web site, click if part of your proceeds are going to a charity (school, sports team) and then you wait. You are called or emailed when food tests are available. You must qualify through their test, but it is pretty easy if you are not a picky eater. My family and I eat anything, so we qualify for pretty much all of them. The best part is your kids can participate also! I used to give my kids a cut of their take, because they needed to pay the finders fee and driver to get them there. They didn't care, it was an easy $20 for them. The only downfall to this one, is you can only test once a month :( I know this one is for the Twin Cities area of Minnesota, but if you Google "Food Taste Testers" there might be a local company in your area too. Now, if you are in the Twin Cities, and this information really helped you out and you want to say thank you, you could choose 'Blaine Dance Team' as your charity to give to, that would be great. My daughter was a four year member of the team, and I was on the executive board for three years. This was my legacy to the teams fundraisers, setting the dance team up as a charity of choice. Sincerely, thank you if you can pick them!

Secret Shopping

I have many different companies that I do secret shopping for, below are the ones that I personally use.

Best Mark
Best mark is one of the first companies that I did secret shops through. I have done restaurants, electronic stores, fitness centers, daycares, even different retail shops. It is easiest to use this company through their website on a computer as their website is not very mobile device user friendly. Sign up and see what is available for you to shop. You then do the shop and enter all of the information online through their forms. You will receive a check in the mail about a month after the shop has been completed. They do keep tax records for you if you end up clearing more than $600 in one year for tax purposes. If you would like to check out Best Mark you can CLICK HERE.

Gigwalk
This one is an app to use with your smart phone. It works for both Android and iPhones. Go into your app store and search Gigwalk, it is a blue square with a G in it. You need a PayPal account to receive payments, so set that up first if you don't have one already. Once you are downloaded and all signed up, you search for jobs. It will give you a view of the available jobs to do by the closest location to you, which is very helpful. When you find one you would like to complete, apply for it and with how many hours it will take you to complete it. Once accepted, drive to the location, take your pictures (right from the app) and answer a few questions. Remember to always take an outside picture of the store, this app requires it. Once it has gone through their quality control, you will receive payment right into your PayPal. It seriously couldn't be easier. I use this app as does my 17yo son. Great way to make a little extra money.

Field Agent
This is another app shop to use. Again, download it to your phone, sign up and start searching for jobs that sound interesting to you. This app also pays you directly to a PayPal account and uses map and GPS technology to find jobs close to your location. The big difference in this app is that you are unable to reserve a job. You need to be at the store doing it to get it. If somebody next to you is using this app also and submits the results before you, they get paid and you do not.

iSecretShop
This is the newest app I have downloaded and started trying. You look under available shops to see if there are any that interest you and then request to be placed onto them. I have done many food shops with this app where they pay you a flat fee for you to tell about your customer service experience and how the food looked and tasted. You can do this one right where they will be paying you more than the food costs, but be careful of your spending then if you are trying to eat for free and make a small profit.

Well, this is it for now. These are all the ways that I bring in money to my household. I am always trying new things and trying to sell new things on Etsy, I will keep you informed of anything new that I find. Be sure to follow this blog to keep up to date with any new, exciting findings.

Some were asking how much I am actually making on the side with all these little jobs. Again, not enough to retire on, but enough to pay my grocery bills every month. Which makes the old grocery budget go towards the debt in baby step 2! You can use this to save for a wedding, save for Christmas, save for a trip, save for a downpayment on a house, or use it for gas money. The sky is the limit on side hustles. What have you been doing to make some extra cash?



Saturday, October 29, 2016

Free Halloween Party Printable Signs

If you are having a Halloween party at your house, you might need a way to show your guest where the food and restrooms are without them having to ask. Here are two free printable Halloween signs to do just that! I made them in black and white to save on colored ink too.

We used these signs in the basement to show guest that food is just right around the corner, which also happens to be where the bathroom is located.



Great way to let your guests know that it is OK to walk down that creepy hallway.

Restrooms sign to help those that "need to go"
Show your guests which way to the food!

I hope you have a Happy Halloween and an even better Halloween party!